Learning the ropes

To me i never understood fully what D/s was all about let alone to be in this type of relationship. I had researched BDSM, was intrigued by it even in RL, but I thought that being in this lifestyle was just slap a collar on and that was it. I never knew there was training involved, tests, break downs, i did not know the full extent. It was not till i became apart of the lifestyle, being collard, learning the ways of how submissives are supposed to act, how Dom's really treat Their subs/slaves, that i truly went into depth and understood what it meant to be in this life, Learning what my collar really meant to me and what the real difference was between vanilla and D/s relationships. i never really knew the difference when it came to Dom's and regular people i guess, because really the only one's i had seen, have been these so called Dom's on SL where they get 5 women on a collar, and thought that was actually something special, and maybe it was to them, but in reality they did not even know what they was doing themselves, just thought it was something to do, in my opinion, it made it bad for the real Dom's on the grid, because these women would be like "i wanna be Yours" and thought it was that simple, hell thats what i thought as well. But 2 years ago i was proved wrong and to me to be here in this D/s relationship that i have been in, it means so much to me, so much i have to look forward to, its wonderful to have Trust, Commitment, understanding, security, love, discipline, growth and redirection, Someone who can help me when i cannot help myself through bad thoughts and processing. I never thought i would actually feel this way about this life, but its like apart of me, and i feel lost without it. The interest arousal from D/s is simply being Owned. Having Someone there to protect you, going to war basically for you, when you want to give up Having Them there watching you grow, pushing you to be better. Making your Dom proud, knowing that you satisfy Them, Their wants and desires, i take so much pride in that feeling like i accomplished something, being useful. Learning, being a better me, arouses me, being able to let your Dom explore everything, and not be ashamed of your past, of who you was, of what you was. Them seeing past everything and knowing you better than you know yourself. The bond, the connection arouses my spirit, W/we grow so much through D/s, more than a vanilla, O/our passion, the dedication, desire all the emotions, Y/you can't possibly feel these things in a vanilla not this type of experience, not that i have been in to say the least. Y/you discover new things everyday about this life about Y/yourself, its never ending of possibilities. Prior to partaking in this D/s life, my views was a bit different, because i have seen a lot of mistreatment of a lifestyle kind of like BDSM, Y/you could say. I grew up in a biker home, And their ways are not putting a collar around a neck, but slapping a tattoo on their property's skin, making them wear patch stating who they belonged to. my dad Owned my mother, she was his property. But the way he treated her, made me resent him and that kind of lifestyle he was in, he would boot stomp her, beat her with a belt in-front of me, as a child that is not a picture Y/you want painted in Y/your head of Y/your parents. So i grew up hating that, and thinking to myself i would never want A/anyone to treat me the way my father treated my mother. The way i have seen many Bikers treat their women. So i thought a D/s relationship or lets say BDSM lifestyles was more of that way, no respect for women, no respect for the life they lived, but i was proved wrong, and shown, even being on an SL platform, that the 4 Dom's i have come into contact with, have so much respect for Their Property, They take pride in showing off what is Theirs. i was shown a life where i am not alone, and just because i am submissive does not mean i am weak, not by any means, or that i cannot stand on my own two feet, it just means i no longer have to. So learning more and more about D/s i made it something of a priority, not because my Dom wanted me to, but because it sparked more of an interest for me. I am still learning, and the great thing about BDSM there is always room for improvement, for growth, and for understanding. So now my views are more of what was i thinking of being in a vanilla all these years? When This is where my heart belongs, its a calling even as stubborn as i am, things have changed so much since i have learned, and processed, what this lifestyle, what this life really means! It's invigorating! Honestly, there is no questions, even tho there is still a lot to learn, i feel as tho if any questions was to arise that they would be answered, the fact that i love to learn about this lifestyle, everyday i look forward to learning, and reaching new heights in my submission. I look forward to new things, new journey's, a new path. So what is there not to know? The purpose of D/s its more of a power exchange, Y/you have to have trust, there has to be consent, obedience, a need to serve from the submissive. D/s relationships serve a purpose between the Dominant and submissive, the Dom's assist them in being better, growing, to help Their subs from their fears, to show them a better path, a better understanding, a better life, the submissive has the passion to serve, to please, to give her everything to her Dom. T/they both have so much responsibility in this relationship. Thats why its essential to have understanding and patience, to see the greater levels. The purpose is to lose fears, doubts, to gain a bond, a connection, to understand its ok to trust S/someone with Y/you, Y/your entirety, to give them Y/your desires, your tears, your love, mind body and soul. To have The Dom be able to devour you, to tear you down and build you into this new person. And the Dom's in return gets everything They need, and want.